They arrive late, leave the dishes, and expect everything to revolve around them. They dominate the conversation and often steer it back to themselves. Or they only call when they need something. The holidays can make the relationship’s one-sidedness feel even heavier.
Adjust your expectations
If someone has been self-centered for years, one holiday dinner is unlikely to change them. Hoping they'll suddenly notice your needs sets you up for disappointment. Grieving what this person can't give you is part of healthy preparation.
Decide ahead of time what you're willing to give, and then give it freely instead of resentfully. Generosity you choose feels very different from generosity you're pressured into.
Say what you need
Selfish people rarely pick up on hints. Be specific and kind: "I need you to bring the rolls," or "We can't help financially this year." That isn't unkind. It's honest.
God calls us to love well. But that doesn't mean you must be endlessly drained.
One step this week
List what you're willing to give and what you're not, so you aren't deciding under pressure.
You don't have to do this alone
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