Undeniable Truths

  • There is no sin - except unbelief - which God cannot forgive.

  • God can transform anyone willing to be transformed.

  • People often retreat to controlling behavior when they are afraid.

  • Three things keep us from moving forward and being who God intends us to be: fear, insecurities, and shame.

  • Fear, insecurity, and shame always lead to emotional and relational isolation.

  • The source of nearly all psychological and emotional problems is a lack of emotional bonding in human relationships and with God.

  • The most miserable people in this world are Christians who live as if they are not Christians.

  • We must have peace with God before we can have peace with each other.

  • Unbridled self-expression is just immature entitlement.

  • Retaliation if a form of self righteousness that kills relationships.

On this page are truths about life we have learned over the years.

This is a working list that is regularly updated.

  • The truth is never the problem.

  • You are responsible for what you say, do, and feel.

  • Grace and truth, over time, are required for healing, emotional bonding, and the development of authentic relationships.

  • The more bonded we become to someone, the more likely we are to be forgiving rather than critical of them.

  • Trying to change someone else never works.

  • In relationships, we rarely see the wounds, we usually see only the scars.

  • We all marry our unfinished business.

  • Your need to be right - winning the objectivity battle - never leads to emotional intimacy

  • Marriage is often not about reaching one vision which both partners happily share. Its about negotiating two different visions that both learn to live with happily.