Whether it's infidelity, financial dishonesty, or a smaller but repeated pattern of broken promises, betrayal shatters something that took years to build and can't be rebuilt on the same timeline. The betrayed partner often oscillates between wanting to reconcile and feeling foolish for wanting to. The partner who broke trust often wants forgiveness faster than trust can actually be restored, mistaking remorse for repair.

The first two posts in this series looked at pornography's broader impact and the roots of the struggle for the person using it. This post turns to someone whose experience is too often minimized: the spouse who discovers it.

In an effort to gain justice while ignoring forgiveness, family members in family businesses suing each other is not uncommon. In the last couple of years, I’ve encountered several situations in which family members sue each other to seek justice. Never mind that justice is never enough. Forgiveness needs to be part of the picture if a family business is going to survive with the family intact.