Some family members know exactly where it hurts, and the holidays give them an audience. It might be a comment about your weight, your marriage, your parenting, or your past. You smile, then replay it for days.
Expect it, don't absorb it
If someone has hurt you before, it's wise to expect it again. That isn't pessimism. It's preparation. Go in remembering that cutting remarks often say more about the speaker's struggles than about your worth.
Bring a place to land
Plan a break ahead of time, such as a walk, a quiet drive, or a call with a trusted friend. Pray before you go and again after you leave. Give yourself room to feel what you feel instead of pretending it didn't sting. And remember, if a family member has abused you, you don't owe them your presence.
One step this week
Name one person you can text during the gathering, and let them know ahead of time. See if you can schedule time with them just to get a break from your family.
You don't have to do this alone
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