After Twenty Years, My Husband Isn't Interested in Me Anymore. What's Wrong With Me? What Should I Do?

Twenty years is a long time to build a life with someone. It's also long enough for silence to grow around a hard topic without either of you quite meaning for it to happen. If sexual intimacy has quietly faded, and you're left wondering what you did wrong, please hear this clearly: a husband's loss of sexual interest is rarely, if ever, a verdict on his wife's desirability. It's almost always a symptom of something else — and most of those somethings have nothing to do with you.