In today’s post, I outline five losing strategies couples use toward each other that can eventually kill their relationship. These five strategies come from Relational Life Therapy (Terry Real).

Twenty years is a long time to build a life with someone. It's also long enough for silence to grow around a hard topic without either of you quite meaning for it to happen. If sexual intimacy has quietly faded, and you're left wondering what you did wrong, please hear this clearly: a husband's loss of sexual interest is rarely, if ever, a verdict on his wife's desirability. It's almost always a symptom of something else — and most of those somethings have nothing to do with you.